Self- belief is really the solution to any problem you may have. Think about it – when it comes to your professional life, we are unhappy when we are not paid fairly or when we don’t enjoy what we do. The solution to both is valuing yourself more to walk away when you are not getting paid fairly and to have the courage to follow your dreams. That requires self-love and confidence.
The same in your personal life with your family and friends, we teach people how to treat us and if they don’t treat us as we like, it’s our fault. Setting standards in our professional and personal lives can be detrimental to our happiness.
However, setting standards and boundaries requires self-respect, self-love, and self-belief that will transform our relationships with ourselves and therefore our relationship with others.
Oprah Winfrey wisely said that we are defined by how we treat ourselves and others – not by what we acquire or what we achieve. Therefore, if you don’t value yourself, you can’t value others and if you don’t love yourself – you can’t love others.
Coaching with me will change your life forever, as we will work on valuing yourself, valuing your emotions, valuing your thoughts and ideas so you won’t rely on other people for validation. That’s when the suffering decreases.
On the video below, I talk a little bit more about what it takes to built self-esteem and belief in yourself more:
The first step towards self-love is self-awareness. Check out my videos on self – awareness:
You can’t love something you don’t understand or someone you don’t know. Spending time with yourself and observing yourself to identify your strengths as well as your weaknesses is key.
It takes work to accept and embrace our shortcomings and our dark side. Now when developing self-love there are three determining factors that I’ve seen playing out throughout everyone’s life.
Here is how we like ourselves more:
- When we are doing the right thing
- When we are raising our standards and follow through on our commitments
- Who we decide we are at our worse, most challenging times in our lifetime
By consistently doing the right thing you like and admire yourself more. When you try to deceive, mislead or take revenge on other people -you hurt yourself more. That decreases your self-love and if done consistently it may be catastrophic to your self-worth.
Raising standards and follow through on your commitments is the sexier thing anyone can do. Whether that is committed to going to the gym three times per week for the next six months and actually do it. Or when you commit to saving 15% of your income every month in order to have an x amount by the end of the year. It really helps you think of yourself in high regard, when you raise your standards and follow through on your promises.
Finally, if any of you have reached rock bottom in your life or life has really tested you with challenges and difficulties – it makes all the difference who you decide you are at those points in time. The person we decide we are at our worst time in life, really determines who we become for a lifetime.